I won't be the spoiler in this case and give the play by play of the article; go read it yourself. Seriously. But I will say it was an excellent read on how "traditions" are being modified as the climate of relationships is changing and an eye opener on how really real it is.
I mean, to be real, my eyes BEEN open on this issue, but it just made me think deeply into this generation and where they stand on relationships.
My perspective on black love and Generation Y have been thrown all over the place lately. According to the article (and life), people are getting married at much later ages, if at all. Unions of love are being taken as a joke because the L word is an either extremely overused or extremely unused term. We hear about as many divorces as we do weddings. No one's ever ready to settle down with one person because, hey, why have just one when you can have many?
This leaves me discouraged to say the least.
But then lately I've been witnessing things that conflict with this preexisting theory.
I think over the past two years, I've witnessed about 6 engagements in total. I will be attending 3 weddings this year, starting in July.
One of my favorite set of nearly-weds is my amazing linesister Michelle and her boo, Tory.
Look at her showing off her rock at graduation! (This photo was taken by me for The Washington Post.)
This gives me a little hope. Maybe our generation is getting it together slowly and giving love a chance.
Or maybe I'm wrong.
I'm single as a fresh dollar bill, so don't take my word for it, lol.
Here come the tears of joy, sorrow, triumph, frustration, and reality.
Bring on the Kleenex.
After four years of living the undergraduate life, it's time to be spat into the black hole we globally refer to as adulthood. The real kind, not just the neck-roll induced "I'm grown" schpeel.
Time flies when you're chugging beers and churning out A+ papers.
More often than not, soon-to-be grads feel an unsettling rumble in the pit of their stomach when someone asks them the end-all-be-all-of-questions:
"So, what are you doing after graduation?"
My sentiments exactly.
My mind eases up a little bit when I think of what I REALLY gained from college: opportunity. College places you at the epicenter of innovative new ideas with the ambitious young minds necessary to bring them into fruition. Our peers -- our cranky roommates, teaching assistants, club presidents, sorority sisters and fraternity brothers, best friends, or even the person you always say hello to but never quite caught their name -- are all stepping stones into the next chapters of our successful lives because they constantly provide us with opportunities to grow.
Whether you're out busting your chops at an internship or lounging around in the rec area of your dorm, the next billion dollar breakthrough is within feet of you and is just as eager to see you rise to the top with them, IF you work hard.
Leaving my Alma Mater (Howard University, go Bison!!), I'm very confident in my aforementioned statements. I've worked hard. You've worked hard. Work it out and help each other shine.
There are way too many opportunities to not do that.